Well, this is messed up, so,...what would you do in my shoes?

My divorce was just finalized


to my mate of 10 years (on and off some)


and husband of 2.5 years


before it was finalized we were talking about getting back together, how it had been a mistake





It had been his idea, suddenly, the divorce that is,


then he called crying saying he missed me and was breaking down, that we had to stop it





well anyway, his pothead ex stepped back in with her new baby


after swearing to be she wasn't interested in him, and no threat to me, that she had a new life





I just found out her baby's father died in December


guess that explains all this





so,...how messed up is all this?





What would you do?

Well, this is messed up, so,...what would you do in my shoes?
You shouldn't go back to him. He is confused and needs to mature a little. Marriage is a commitment to you before GOD and he has broken that once for NO reason. Love can hurt, be blind and most of all confuse you???? That's not LOVE! Love is pure, fun, happiness and when you find that marry again.
Reply:Well,you did say it was on and off over the years......maybe you would be better off without him.
Reply:Depends on how you really feel about him doesn't it?. If it was me, I would keep moving forward now that I had made a clean break re the divorce and start a new life. For all you know he could do the same thing again further on down the track, then you really would be wishing you'd listen to this advice. Only you can decide. Good luck.
Reply:Get the heck away from your ex, your ex's ex, your ex's ex's fatherless baby and the whole assorted drama! Sheesh, who needs that sort of sh1t in their lives? I'll bet you don't. Cut all ties with all of them and go find some normal friends.
Reply:You've done your time already. It's time for you to move on and become who you were meant to be (without him). He's a grown man and needs to make his own grown decisions, and hopefully he'll make the right ones. Oh and about the ex... leave that entire situation alone.
Reply:Give him a tissue for his tears and tell him to suck it up, you've moved on.
Reply:Nothing.. Go through the regrets, falsehood... cry for days.. hate him and the other woman like hell.. Then cool down. Time heals..
Reply:Move on Honey,no one deserves all thisshit, least of all you, havent you had enough?
Reply:stand back and watch the drama unfold!!!!!
Reply:Walk away and leave this man alone. He has serious issues and you'll never get rid of this woman now. She's looking for a father for her baby. You are divorced, start out with a clean slate and find someone who won't play games with you.
Reply:What would I do? I don't do "on and off again". Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt, but I was a kid then, and I didn't know any better.





Listen up: you didn't have an argument: you broke up. You never take somebody back. Never. That was your first mistake. Then you got married. Good grief. Now you are divorced, and you are thinking of doing all of this drama again?





It's your life. Have an unhappy life full of unneccessary drama if you like, but there are better things you could be doing.,
Reply:It depends on who he chooses. just becuase she came back, doesnt mean he is gonna choose her
Reply:hmmm...sounds to me she is going through her book of "exes" because she wants help w/ the baby...and does not want to do this alone...and she is looking for someone to take a bite at her hook...using the baby as bait...and if your "man" can't see through this lady, he's a rather dumb one, lol...I am sure she is feeding him a bunch of lines to try to get him to bite...all I can say is...if he has been with her again...forget about him...move on! If he has not been with her...tell him she has to go...baby or not...can't even be friends...that's what I think...exes don't belong being "friends". Good Luck and be happy...even if it's without him...there are other fish in the sea...and she should be told the same by him...=)
Reply:MOVE ON



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