I want a baby now, how can I remain patient for three more years?

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years now. (5 dating, and over 1 married). We have decided we want a larger family (4-6 depending..) However we moved out of state for school away from family and friends. We have three more years here. I'm 23 and if we wait to have children, I'll be 27 or so when we have our first. This would be fine but I do not want to have children after 35 or so. Hopefully you can see why I want to start now, and why I can't. So what would you do in my shoes?

I want a baby now, how can I remain patient for three more years?
What I have learned is there is NEVER a right time to have children. You can only prepare the road ahead for what is in the present. There are so many factors in this...I can see you both thinking a lot of "what if"'s and that's only natural. It took my husband about a year and a half to finally be ready because I told him, if you truly wanted children the way you say so then we would just do it.





Here's the thing: People are very adaptable to surroundings and to change. The pregnancy is 8-9 months for a reason. It takes time to plan and change things. And, not to mention, there is an almighty God watching over us and taking care of us...so instead of saying the what-if's, start talking about the what is.





He needs to be ready also, but he also needs to listen to your hearts desire and create a compromising goal that both of you can handle.





Hints on being patient: take up some hobbies and learn to enjoy the time you have with your husband. Travel. Get in shape. Start healthy eating habits. Start preparing your way to be pregnant without letting it comsume you.





And miracles happen...if you got pregnant tomorrow without planning it, then what?





Anyway, it's just because I know several people who follow their hearts and have a family. One couple I admire have 3 kids and made a decision to put the husband back into an expensive 5 year schooling program. She stays home, he works a great job while balancing school. And it works. We just adapt.





Hope this helps! :)
Reply:Well, I definately would wait until my husband is ready.
Reply:I'd wait. a baby is not a novelty item you should be near friends and family for that extra support. 35 is not old to be having children these days, my sister had her first at 38.
Reply:just be patient. when the right time come around it will, have time to travel and enjoy one another.


me and my husband said three years. look at it this way: try to get debt paid off as much as possible, like we are. because when a baby comes its just not you and him any more. its baby time and on top of that baby gets sick go to doctor that's another bill on top of debt. say you get pregnant and then you have to go on bed rest, what are you going to do if you have a lot of debt that you have not tried to pay off or Evan tried to pay down? I want less debt so that if i do have a baby and say a car accident happened if i am not so


far in debt, i can shell out $500.00 to get my car fix. think about the big picture and pray about it, say you want to just get up and go out of town you and your husband. what are you going to do with a baby that wakes up every second and cries and you don't know whats wrong. having a baby is a beautiful thing, but makes sure your ready. i want them to but right know i am only 22 years old and i want to enjoy just a little of my marriage before i think of children.
Reply:What would i do? Well, Its been 4 yrs of trying to get pregnant for me. So, sometimes you just have to sit back and wait it out. If it happens, it happens. If you're worried about have a baby away from you family, because of support and physical help issues, maybe you should wait....
Reply:It definitely has to be a joint decision but I can't lie....I would be working my husband to get him to change his mind if I wanted a baby that badly :)



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