Why do people disrespect and shun pregnant teenagers?

Why do you think?


I mean, people do stupid things. With these all-abstinent programs at schools, we [[13-17 y.os]] don't know hardly anything about it! So how do we find out since our parents won't tell us either? Experiment. What happens? STDs and unplanned pregnancy. I just don't understand why you're shunned! I'll be at the mall and get dirty looks, stares, points, laughs, giggles, and rude remarks from people. Just the other day I was wearing a tank top and was at the shoe store looking at baby shoes, and this man told his son to never get a girl pregnant like me, and someone else said ''look at her, only about 14 or 15 and pregnant...'' I just think that it's extremely rude when people do that, or even people on Y!A. On my old accounts I'll play the guessing game with them, and half of them are like ''keep your legs shut'' or other rude remarks.





I'm done ranting, your turn. =]

Why do people disrespect and shun pregnant teenagers?
Well i have a 4 year old daughter myself and am 23 years old. I am not for teenage pregnancy. But is there any point in putting down someone who is a teenager and in fact pregnant? No not at all. These people are just plain rude and need manners. Now you need support from people. Not complete strangers telling you how horrible you are. And being as i am all about pro life. I applaud you for going through with the pregnancy and being responsible. Just do the best you can and never be afraid to ask for help. Raising children is tough at any age. Just remmeber that also people at any age can be very mean and judge mental. I wish you good will in what you do. God bless!





Kell
Reply:I agree, I am a pregnant teen and I am sick of people also. I am in the Junior year of high school but I worked my *** of so I can graduate a year early, and I still got people you think I am so stupid for getting pregnant or in class other students will just bring up teen pregnancy and how I ruined my life, right in front of me.


Not all teenage parents are bad, most can take care of there kids and give them a great life.
Reply:Some people may make comments or looks because they feel sorry for them. Some people just think they are better than everyone else and they have the right. Humans make mistakes, but sometimes things happen for a reason. Personally, if a teenager (or anyone) gets pregnant without planning to and chooses to give that baby a chance at life I applaud you. It's hard, but just ignore them.
Reply:I understand what you are saying I was pregnant at 15 and gave birth at 16 and have never lived off welfare or my parents or anyone else. I just think that people today are very closed minded and need to have a lesson on todays generation
Reply:You know I hate people like that too. I am 20 years old, engaged and 38 weeks pregnant and I get the same looks and remarks. I think they fear that looking at someone young thats pregnant is gonna make their kids get pregnant by some magical force or something. My mom was 15 when I was born and she said people werent as judgemental when she was pregnant so I just dont understand.
Reply:I'm not in your age category but I'm pregnant and damn there 20, work and go to school and people stare and give me dirty looks because I look about 15 or 16..





I was in the middle of writing my rant but I'm pregnant and tired...





I will come back and edit tomorrow if you haven't chosen a best answer.





Congrats on your little one..
Reply:i understand what your feeling i was 15 when i got knocked up and anywhere i went there was stares and snickers even at church but i just learned how to ignore them and realized i dont care what people think about me they dont know me theyre not in my life and they dont know my situation so why am i worried about what they think...good luck hun
Reply:They're jealous old hags. They think they know more because they're older but in reality they'll always be 'out of touch' and old.
Reply:Cause people are too judgemental. I'm sorry people are so rude %26amp; mean. Hugs %26amp; best wishes for you %26amp; your baby.
Reply:I understand what you are saying. I got pregnant at 17 and had her at 18. I think most of the dirty looks are from people who either don't have children or are it more of a look of feeling sorry for the pregnant teen. the reason I say that is because it is so hard being a teen parent. I was on food stamps wic tempary assistance and medicaid and still had a very hard time money wise. I decided to go to school to make a better life for me and my daughter as my boyfriend of 3 years left when he found out that I was pregnant. I ended up meeting my husband at my collage which i got into after dropping out of school. he excepted my daughter as his own child and loves her just as much as his own child. we are now expecting our 3rd and I'm only 22. I think that is the main reason why people do this because they htink it will be hard on the child but I thin k as long as you do the best that you can to give your cild a safe home and a good life then your doing your part as a parent even if it is not the life that other people think yur child should have. as far as the poeple on here I think they do it to get a rise out of you mainly. or they truely think that because you made a "mistake", which just happens to turn in to a blessing, you must be a slut. that may not be the case but that might just be what they think. and they are intitled to their opinion like everyone else however some of them really should keep it to them selves. that is what I think anyway
Reply:I'm not an advocate for teenagers going out and getting pregnant but I don't understand it either way back in the day it was exceptable to be 15 married and pregnant. Now people pass judgment on teens because there pregnant but believe me they could be doing alot more harmful things. Alot of people have prejudices weather your a teen or you have 3 or more children, disabilitys, race, no one is really safe anymore.. I don't really speak from experience but I've seen and heard things no body really has respect for others anymore. It's hard but if i were you I would just ignore there ignorant comments and focus on you and the baby that's really all that matters. Good LucK!
Reply:Their right, sad to say. It's bull to say that you do not know about the risks and dangers of unprotected sex when in America the information is abundant. I am 18 and I have made it to 18 without even having sex, even though it has been tempting. But that is for a special person that I will share it with on my wedding night. This option is probably not the popular one with most people these days, but I feel that I should respect my body, and not just hand it over to the first guy that says he loves me. If this is not what you choose to do, it is okay, but before becoming sexually active, you should know the facts and the methods of protection. Because yes, you can do it ONLY once, but you can get pregnant. Why should people respect somebody who cannot respect herself?
Reply:I am 16 and pregnant myself.... It really depends to me.. If the teenager is immature, not ready to take responsibility or anything like that... I really don't see them fit for a parent..





I know this one girl in school, who gets an abortion every time she gets pregnant.. 3 so far..





People just go by statistics. Most teenage moms get scared and lock their babies in their trunks, or stab them. (the extremes you here on the news xP) So, the community gets biased.





But there is the few teenagers who are better mothers that some older women would ever be.. So, people should really learn more before they judge.
Reply:exacally. ughh. i'm not even that young (18)


and i'm not showing yet, but my family knows i'm pregnant, and i know they look down on me- but they had their frist kid around the same age as me. guhh. i hate it. i'm confused enough, i just want help. i mean, everyone knows, you get pregnant from sex, but ofcourse people have sex anyway. i think the school should give out condoms- its not promoting people to have sex, because if they dont want to, then they wont do it. but for the rest of us, it would dramitacly reduce the spred of STDs and even pregnancy. and they should tell us where we can get birthcontrol, not tell us to go to our parents. ughh.





well goodluck with everything. your gonna be a great mommy, dont let people get you down.
Reply:I've gotten that a ton of times, "next time, keep your legs closed." It is totally uncalled for, it's like .. as if we don't have enough problems of our own! Plus, we do have feelings.





I think people have this misconception about teenagers who get pregnant. Everyone thinks that we're the girls you see on Maury who walk around half naked saying, "WATEVA WATEVA. U DUN KNO ME, I DO WAT I WUNT."





Nobody who passes a pregnant teen on the street thinks, "Wow, impressive. A genuinely good kid messed up, and is stepping up and taking a responsibility. Good for her!!"





It seriously hurts. A lot. I'm not some white trash girl on welfare who's gonna "don marry mah boa." I have a good head on my shoulders, and I hate being treated like I'm a dumbass slut.
Reply:Everyone has different beliefs. Some believe sex is sacred, some believe it's as casual as a hug. Some are in between.





Half the people that "judge you" only do so because they know that THEY personally wouldn't have made the same decision. We all do things like that-- have you ever looked at someone with a bright blue mohawk and thought "wow... I can't believe they'd do that..." or, on the flipside, looked at someone dressed in a business suit, primped and ready for the world and thought the same thing? It's a matter of preference, and it's also hard to remember that everyone has free will and may think differently from yourself.





I'm sure some people don't do it with ill will, while others are truly just a**holes.





Most people focus on, "wow, what a stupid decision. What about school?" and so on, and so forth. It's so rare that people stop and say to you "good job. You made the brave choice. Good luck with the baby!"





Personally, I look at pregnant girls my age or younger and think how it could easily be me. I do have sex, and even though I use protection, I'm sure a lot of young moms used protection too. Nothing is fool proof. I have all the respect in the world for someone having a child "by accident." There isn't a braver decision out there.





As for the teaching of soley abstinence in schools-- I hope it changes someday soon. While school shouldn't have to teach us about sex itself, it should teach us how to protect ourselves. Teaching safe sex does not make us engage in it. I've never heard someone say "I would have sex, but, I don't know the proper way to use a condom. I guess I'll wait for marriage." Good lord. It's more like "hmm, I don't know how to use a condom. Let's give the ol' team effort! Hopefully we use it right!"



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