Wondering about mothers that buy their new babies everything....?

I've had 5 babies(all fairly grown up now) so I learned(the hard way....after the fact) with my first baby that lots of things just arent necessary....new borns really dont require all that much.





So I'm wondering...do mothers (first time or otherwise) just like to buy whatevers out there cause they think they need it...or just cause they want it because basically your baby is not telling you it needs all those things and really a baby doesnt....





for instance....shoes, why do I see soooo many babies wearing shoes when booties will do...its not like they are going to be walking in them





also clothes, does anyone realize how fast babies grow...why spend a fortune on a lot of clothes that the baby will only be able to wear a few months(sometimes not even that)?





it just seems a waste of money that would be better spent on something more permanent for your child....savings for the future or something...anyone got any comments?

Wondering about mothers that buy their new babies everything....?
I want to state that I have 5 children, my most recent being born in March of this year. She was an oops mom and dad were irresponsible pregnancy, but thats for another post.. anyway.. the only things we purchased new for her were new bedding for her bed, some onesies and the dress to come home from the hospital in. I had kept all of my baby clothes from previous babies, and still had of course a baby bed and bouncy seat.. other than that.. diapers, lotion, baby wash etc..





Things I feel are not required:


Diaper Pails.. thats what trash cans are made for.


Bottle Sterilizers.. wash em with hot water and go.


Shoes of course.. cause no baby needs shoes until they get the first pair of WALKING SHOES.


Bibs... not until they are eating solid foods.


Cradle/Baby Bed/Bassinet.. pick one.. the Bed.. when they are small.. get a sidecar for your bed, or hell use a laundry basket with a nice blanket and a pillow as a mattress.





Jus some random thoughts :)
Reply:I have the same opinion as you on this....


I think lots of younger moms, especially, 'buy into' all the advertising, and such. It can be really sad....
Reply:My daughter got alot of newer stuff given to us but most of the stuff I actually spent money on, I discovered that I either didn't really use enough to make up the cost or I only used for a short while. this pregnancy we are using the playpen for a bassinet, the stroller from the first child, clothes from my daughter since they are almost new. My daughter spent alot of time in her pj's or diaper cuz we never leave the house...putting her in clothes just to sit around the house seems pointless, as long as she is warm/cool enough then no big. I agree that being a first time mom makes one want to have everything they need and perferable new but smart moms don't bother subsequent times afterwards being as they know what is really needed and will be used. Alot of crap out there is just not necessarily...my sis in law lent me a baby tub, I never used it with number one and she gave it to me again and I doubt I will use it just as an example. I have 3 snuggli carriers and rarely used even one of them...I bought one and was given two, that was a waste of money. Anyway, yeah you are right, some go a bit overboard and learn the hard way it was a waste of money.
Reply:it's natural that the extra spending comes along with the excitement of having a new addition in the family. but i totally agree with you.
Reply:I guess if the parents have the money, they probably figure why not? I think buying everything is a very common mistake with the 1st child. But after that, most of us common folk realize it's not necessary, lol.
Reply:My comment would be "Why do you care"? What others buy for their babies has no effect on you. We each raise our children the way we see fit. You said yourself that you learned the hard way. Perhaps some other parents will come to the same conclusion you did, after the fact. But some parents enjoy buying their children things-even if they are not NEEDED-and they certainly have that right.





The comment you make would relate to older children, also. For instance, teens do not NEED brand name clothes, the most popular shoes, the latest electronic toy, etc. That money would be much more wise if it were invested in a college savings fund.





I am not saying I disagree with you-much of what we (in general) buy our children IS unnecessary. I just do not think it is a major problem.
Reply:I agree. Spending so much money is not necessary. I outfitted my children before they were born at yard sales for $100 per kid I got the strollers, the bouncers, the cribs, and the clothing. If I saw a cute pair of shoes for a quarter, sure I got them. If I got things like that though, I didn't get many and they were mostly for pictures.
Reply:im wondering about the same thing too.


i have a 4 month old and i dont think that he needs a lot of things...


babies are fast growing so i dont think that they need a lot of stuff because the next month, they cant use them anymore. im saving money for his education.
Reply:Shoes, I agree on that one. Not only were they useless on babies, I just felt it was uncomfortable for them! As for clothes.... I had the money to spend on them, and I just really enjoyed buying clothes for my children. I had two boys first, so I justified it that I could pass on the clothes to my second son and get two wearings out of them.... then I had a girl, and what fun to dress a girl! I still don't consider it a waste of money, because I could afford it, I enjoyed it, and I didn't throw out clothes when they outgrew them, I either passed them to my sister, or donated them to charity.
Reply:They just want to feel that they provided for their offsprings better thn their own folks did. Also they do it because they can.
Reply:I totally agree, dont understand it either. I have a 5 month old and he has 2 pairs of shoes...I didnt buy either pair. I buy most of his clothes at this like second hand store cause most of the clothes still have tags on them and are in wicked good shape...whats the point of wasting money when it could be spent on things worth while?
Reply:It's kind of one of those things people do with anything, not just mothers and babies. For example, when you buy a new car, you tend to get a whole bunch of stuff for it just because you can. Now that you have a baby, you have a reason to go out and buy all the baby stuff, even if it's really not necessary. It's just getting caught up in the excitement.



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