Where should I go? With my whole family, and the man I love, or back to my ex where my baby can see her dad?

Ok so heres the deal, i live in a town called albany, but im currently holidaying with my family, 2 thousand kilometers away, now my babys dad is in albany, whereas my whole family is here, as well as my boyfriend, now if i stay im worried my daughter will suffer greatly for not having a dad in her life, but if I go back to Albany, I'm worried that I'll be breaking so many hearts, including mine. So my question to you all is what would you do in my shoes? Is a father and no extended family better for my daughter, or a step dad and a large extended family? Can she possibly have a fullfilling life without a dad? What should I do?

Where should I go? With my whole family, and the man I love, or back to my ex where my baby can see her dad?
A fulfilling life with her happy mother, step-dad, and many family members trumps a dad any day! And besides, if he has any heart at all, and wants to see his child, he would move closer to her anyways! Good Luck!
Reply:Ok here is the real question, what is it you are leaving out? You and your ex are exes for a reason, so why is that? It sounds to me that you should stay with your family and boyfriend and live your life.





If your daughter's biological father wants to be in her life than he will make the effort, but don't uproot yourself and your daughter just so she can have her biological father. Chances are your boyfriend has been a better dad than her real one has right?





I have many friends without dads who did great in their lives so far and they don't have a father figure. I have also seen a few friends stick with their baby's daddy just because they think the baby needs them and let me tell you it isn't true. A baby doesn't need to learn how to be disrespectful to their mother, lazy, ungreatful, etc. from their daddy. They also don't need a daddy who isn't going to take care of them and just mooch of mommy. What they need is a daddy who is going to be good to them and to their mommy and love them.





So, think long and hard about the real questions here and don't delude yourself. A kid can live fine without a dad in their life. A "step dad" can be just as wonderful as a real dad can be. Its your choice in the end, but make sure you are thinking of what is best for your daughter and for her long term.
Reply:the answer is simple if this step dad has no problem helping you with your daugter build her relationship with the one that will help you and love her and with other family members that can be there for her and love as a family





why would you want to be with people who dont want you around and only hurt you child in the long run stay with those who wll help you and avopid the ones that will only bring you down as life ways best of luck and happiness
Reply:the man you love can act as a father figure for your daughter so dont worry about her missing out on that. stay with your family and the one you love.


going back to your ex is sacrificing your happieness for your daugher, which, dont get me wrong, that isnt a bad thing, but you need to think of yourself sometimes too.


sure your daughter wont get to see her real father as much as she would being in the same towm, but im sure you can set up special occassions and certain dates for her to be with him.
Reply:!your daughter should rather have no extended family and true dad, then to have a step dad with a large extended family!!! a true father can never be replaced!!! you have to put your daughter's happiness before yours! yes, your daughter will suffer greatly without her true dad. you can go to Albany and stay close by and call your bf there so you are able to take your daughter to her dad very often, that is if you truly love your bf and want to stay with him. you have to see through your daughters heart, that by taking her away from her true dad, you are actually damaging her life, cos no step parent will ever love someone else's child!
Reply:Well you see your daughter will have the whole family and your love to support her on the holidays, you need your boyfriend to assume a closer relationship with your daughter now that she is young i mean a more dad care thing, the thing is if you take your daughter to your ex then you must think that she will be with him but not with you, so for next year try to fix things so there is sacrafice from both you and your ex for the girl if not then you should ask her what would she like more being with her dad on holidays or with the family etc.
Reply:I would stay with my family and the man i love....she will still have a "father figure" in her life and a whole family that cares for her. You do have to keep in mind though, that your ex has every right to see her too. Im just afraid that if you go back to your ex, just for your daughter, you will be miserable and resent her. Good luck with your decision
Reply:First of all do what you heart is telling you to do.


Second is you baby's dad good father? because if he's not and youre boyfriend there more


well then you know what to do.


Third dont ever leave your family for a guy.





I think your baby's dad could also sacrifice a little to put in some effort of his own. That way you wont feel the way you do.





Good Luck!
Reply:A child will benefit from having a happy parent/caretaker. 'Where there are happy parents their are happy children.' So whatever will make you happiest will be more beneficial to your baby.



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