What will u do if u know ur bf wouldnt want to be father of ur baby?

i m not pregnant but i know if i will, i will have to abort a child. I am 23 and i feel like if he cannot accept my child, why am i keeping this relations. What will u do if u were in my shoes?

What will u do if u know ur bf wouldnt want to be father of ur baby?
leave him cause you never know sometimes condums and BC can fail and abortion cost a ton of money like loads of it and could you really live with yourself for killing a human been (sp?)
Reply:OMG! do you want him or a baby? only you can decide.
Reply:i would leave him there is better and there is another guy that will want u and the baby someday
Reply:you're involved with a man who doesn't want children? and you do want children? if this is the case, why stay involved with him? you're old enough to know what you want, and if this man isn't in agreement with you on the subject of children, you need to get out and free yourself up for when someone more compatible comes along.
Reply:First of all, it's very easy to not get pregnant. If he's so set against it, he should be wearing a condom to make sure. Sounds to me, though, like there are more problems here, than just this one issue. I don't know if he's being verbally or mentally abusive to you, but it doesn't sound like you feel good about yourself when you're with him. Maybe you need to talk to a counselor or someone like that about your self esteem. Is this a pattern for you? You are a wonderful person, a child of the most high God and you deserve so much better than this in your life! You are in my prayers. I hope you find the way to a better life for yourself.
Reply:Leave him def. obv. if u want kids why waste eachothers time, Its not fair too you. And for him to want to abort the child just seems unfair too you and the unborn baby.
Reply:well..since he doesn't want to be the father of ur baby,if i'm u,i will not keep the baby.i will abort it,i knew i will do that.about the relationship..dun worry,there are a lot of couples out there now who didn't want any children!so if i'm u,i will keep the relationship.but there's this big problem:if both of u marry,will ur parents or his parents agree on a ''no-children'' marriage.sure,they will let u marry if they like both of u to be 2gether,but they will like to have grandchildren,right?so....but then,if u guys marry,maybe u two should juz ask ur parents to wait for a short time..until u guys made ur final decision.
Reply:if he is the real father and he doesnt want to take responsibility, i would just end the r/ship. why go in deeper when he cant even be responsible enough for his own actions.
Reply:I would probably talk to him about it. If it was obvious he wouldn't care about the child, it's OVER! That would be insensitive to get you pregnant and forget about you.
Reply:Dump him. You don't need to abort if he didn't want to be the father.
Reply:First, since you are not in a committed relationship, you should be taking every precaution to not become pregnant. . .or catch anything. If you know that he will not help you out if you get pregnant, then you are responsible if you become pregnant and killing your child should not be an option. At least have the baby and give it up for adoption. Give it a chance. So if the consequences of becoming pregnant are bothering you with this guy, why are you with him? He's telling you that he does not want a long term relationship or any ties to you and will not help you out. Get rid of him immediately. You deserve better and he is a jerk. You aren't his gf, just a booty call. . .
Reply:If you know that he doesn't want kids and you do dump him. Don't ever expect him to change his mind for you. Find someone who wants kids and you will be alot happier. You may not think so now, but you don't want to find yourself wanting them later in life when you are to old to have them.
Reply:First you say you are not pregnant. Are you or are you not pregnant? If you are not, and you think he will not accept your baby, then you should be doing everything to prevent getting pregnant, and so should he. You both must take responsibility. If you are pregnant, is it his?
Reply:Dumped the guy. I'm an older guy and never had the chance to raise any kids but would jump at the chance to have one to raise. I'm 45 and it doesn't look like it'll happen to me at this late stage of my life. I know a girl who is now happily married and has two young boys, When she was young and partied she got pregnant at least twice and had them both aborted. I can't but help but think that she must look into her boys eyes and feel pain thinking back about when she made the mistake to abort. Just plan on getting child support I guess if you can't make the right decision to leave him now!
Reply:Well, it is a sad situation, but I have been in it myself. My boyfriend of 4 years left me when I got pregnant, and now claims to love his child but spends little or no time with him. If I were in your shoes, I would leave him. If he would rather you abort a baby that was his just because he would not want it, he may not be on the same page as you are in life. There are plenty more men out there, and one of them is bound to be right for you. Do whatever you feel is right for you, but if I were in your shoes, I would hit the ground running now.
Reply:dump him he isnt worth keeping you can find someone better.
Reply:DO NOT ABORT


YOU ARE A MURDERER iF YOU DO


DO NOT


JUST LEAVE HiM
Reply:Be prepared to parent a child alone if you choose to stay with him. If you know it's not something you can do, either find someone else or get on birth control.
Reply:If you know you're going to abort your child, then use birth control..





why would you put yourself in that position? Talk to women that have had abortions; it takes an emotional and physical toll on you.
Reply:Find a man you can respect, who respects you. Here are the facts, he doesn't want a baby , and he doesn't want a baby with you. As a famous example, look a Clint Eastwood and Sondra Locke, his old girlfriend ( she was in all the Dirty Harry movies, and the movies with the orangutan). According to her biography, she spent her youth with him, had a bunch of abortions on his request, and when she turned 40ish, he dumped her. Now he has small children with a young woman. So I guess he really did want children.





Get out now. You have a whole life before you, and live it the way YOU want it
Reply:no
Reply:If you have a kid already and you feel he does not want to be a father to them, then you have to talk to him about it and if that does not help. Leave him. You will only be hurting your child by letting them get attached to that person.
Reply:Kids suck you dont want one its just women when they get older get "Babby Crazy"
Reply:He doesn't love you if he cannot love what comes from the affirmation of that love...a child............drop him, he probably doesn't even love you, and most likely came from a bad childhood- thus not wanting children, and wasn't loved as a child and therefore cannot really KNOW how to love.......good luck to you.......but there are a lot of nice guys out there- so stop looking in the loser-insecure aisle and move to the nice guy aisle-it's aisle 7 where the Red Light Special is blinking!!!
Reply:quit having sex until you are find someone you actually want to have their children.
Reply:keep my legs closed
Reply:dump his sorry ***
Reply:I would definitely find a man that wanted a baby.....way before having sex with him!!!!!!!!
Reply:No know the answer. You just want someone to say it is ok to stay with someone who is not going to support you for life in ALL things. Everyday with someone who is not compatible with you is a wasted day of life. I wish when I married I would of married for love and compatibility instead of my stupid reason's. Thank god I am getting a new start. Save yourself RUN FORREST!!! RUN!
Reply:nope....move on, it would hurt, but it would be for the best! you live and learn.
Reply:leave him. abortion is wrong and you cant take that chance



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