How do I tell a so so friend that I cant afford to throw her a baby shower at the country club, she's selfish

She threw my wedding shower at her moms house, cheap...why I also paid for her dress and shoes for my wedding.

How do I tell a so so friend that I cant afford to throw her a baby shower at the country club, she's selfish
You simply say, "I'm really sorry to disappoint you, Emily, but I can't afford to throw your shower at the country club. If you want me to take care of it, we'll have to do it at the pizza parlor."





If she's so selfish that she can't handle hearing the truth, then to heck with her, she's not worth keeping as a friend.
Reply:No one should tell you where to throw her a baby shower. She shouldn't expect one at all and if she does get one then those decisions are made by the person giving it. It sounds like this isn't a good friend at all.
Reply:Say, "you're only a so-so friend, so I'm not throwing you a baby shower at an expensive club," that should work.
Reply:Honey, there isn't one law that's gonna bring you in for not throwing a baby shower for your friend. Moreover, this is a so so friend. Get her one pack of diapers for the unborn, one fluffy slippers with the rabbit head on for her and send it through another friend.
Reply:you really don't have to tell her anything, a baby shower is suppose to be a surprise, so don't let her know. and she should be thankful for you giving her one. and don't worry where you are going to have it.
Reply:You are not obligated to throw her a shower. Just because she gave you a wedding shower does not mean you must do something for her in return. If she is expecting you to give her one because she gave you one, then I would tell your so so friend to go go!!!


You don't need to give a reason, or even tell her that you can't give her a shower. Simply ignore it. Buy her a baby gift and don't even mention a shower. If she asks you to give one then and only then you should explain that as much as you would LOVE!! to give her one, you aren't able to because of finances.


Then get rid of her as a friend because a real friend would understand.
Reply:tell her that she shouldn't expect it and that she would be lucky if you were to throw her one.
Reply:throw the shower where ever you want. If she doesn't like it, then let her be a ***** about it, then you can throw it back in her face that your doing things that a real freind would want to do. Keep it simple and special, when ever this girl grows up she'll understand
Reply:If she is a "so so friend" why bother????? Usually you do stuff for people who actually mean something to you like your best friend or your sister, cousin, etc...





But if you feel obligated - you can throw a nice shower at your house or at an inexpensive restaurant. There are so many things you can do to make it a nice affair without having to come out of pocket too much.





If it is to be a surprise - she should be lucky to have a friend like you who actually cares enough to want to give her a shower.





So so friends on my list - let someone else take the responsibility. She sounds very ungrateful.
Reply:In the past a shower of any variety was held in the hostess home.The guest of honor did not have the nerve to ask for a shower nor. ask for a specific location.Whatever happenef to surprise showers and bringing the gift of your choice? If you don't know this person that well then just buy her a nice gift and let her "closer" friends have the privilege of hosting the country club affair.This should be a celebration of a blessed event, to share time with friends and give a gift for the baby. Let's try get back to being sincere with each other and not look at every event as a means to milk the cow dry.
Reply:Just tell her you can't afford to have the baby shower at the country club. If she doesn't like it she can look for someone else to give her the baby shower she wants. Honestly it is very rude and selfish to expect the host to throw a baby shower at an expensive place. You are the host, it is your money that is being spent on the shower, you have the right to plan the shower where ever you want to have it. She should just be greatful that you would throw her a baby shower.
Reply:Do what u can afford to do
Reply:Send her a gift and tell her you're sorry you couldn't make it happen for her.
Reply:I agree. A baby shower is a thoughful thing and usually is a surprise.She shouldnt be telling you anything. Your doing her a favor. If she doesnt like it, then dont throw her one, let someone else do it!!!
Reply:Honestly, don't say anything about it to her, if you still feel obligated to throw her a shower, throw it at your house or an inexpensive restaurant. She doesn't sound like she deserves anything extravagant, she should be delighted with what she gets! Good luck!



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